Going by a widespread study on marriage; marriage is the first and oldest institution enshrined by God on earth. It is one form of relationship among other relationships. Relationship is a vast terrain with many parts and marriage is one of the parts. Marriage relationship is meant to be consumed by specific species of creatures. And by study, marriage is meant to be consumed not only by humans alone but by some creatures like, birds and mammals as well. The most interesting to know is that every form of marriage found among human also exist among these birds and mammals. Every creature outside humans that participates in marriage is configured with natural lessons for straying human marriages to learn from and be resuscitated. After an intense study on marriage, we realized that other creatures that marry also practiced the different types of marriages found among human marriages. Guess what! This exposition is coming as a shock to many people who are not aware that animals also marry. We also guess that those who are not aware that animal marries would know today. Oh, man! You are inexcusable to allow your marriage to crash. As instruments in the hand of God to teach marriage, we understand that the only reason why marriage would crash is ignorance of how much God hates divorce. The truth is that many people are not aware that marriage is not a temporal relationship, but a permanent relationship. They are not aware that, it is a non-graduating institution where couples continue to learn from each other till death parts them. Therefore once a marriage is contrasted, there is no room for divorce. Hence, it is important to know beforehand that, there are no two marriages that are the same and will ever be.
WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
Marriage is a union between an adult man and woman by socially and legally authorized laws. It is established by rules, beliefs, attitudes, and customs of human institutions that preside over the rights and duties of marriage. All activities surrounding marriage are ascribed by different cultures and customs of different societies that attribute basic personal and social functions to the definition of the structures that held marriage such as sexual satisfaction, regulation of rites, and division of labor between a husband and a wife to enhance marriage relationship. Marriage has a strong concern for procreation, care for children and descendant rules. Recognized marriage has a deep relationship with the history and specifics that match couples. All established marriages are recognized by the laws that govern a people. Marriage is defined by separate entities that constitute personal, cultural, and religious values. The most acceptable marriage is the social and legal union of two opposite adults who are emotionally united. Marriage is bond with legal vows to live together as husband and wife for a lifetime.
WHY ARE MARRIAGES NOT THE SAME?
The reason why no marriage can be the same with others is strictly psychological. Truly, no two marriages can be the same because every marriage is made up of spouses with different temperaments and personality traits. Under normal circumstances, when people with different temperaments and personality traits come together in unity of marriage, they must produce a unique character that cannot be found in any other marriage. By this exposition, it is imperative for couples to understand how the elements that facilitate successful marriages operate and follow through.
SEE THE THREE BASIC ELEMENTS THAT FACILITATE SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGES:
- Principles
- Experience
- Human Relation
Brief notes on each element: PRINCIPLES
Principles express major truths that serve as the basis for the belief of a system that produces a chain of reasoning. Principles are widespread laws with endless applications across a vast field of systems. As applied to marriage, principles are the basic doctrines that harmonize couples or marriages. They are natural codes of conduct that guide marriages into incontestable fruition. It is the basic tool that helped couples to behave themselves rightly toward each other and enjoy the bliss of marriage.
EXPERIENCE
Experience is knowledge gained from practical contact with something or someone and observation of facts or events. Experience is anchored by two powerful words known as ‘practical and observation’. It is the knowledge or skill gained from a relationship with an intending spouse or a spouse. Experience is gained from a longtime relationship with someone. It is gained from past events, feelings, and knowledge that made the character or life of a person. Furthermore, there cannot be practical without observation. It is the interweaving of observation and practice that produces experience. Therefore, it is impossible to explore experience without effective harnessing of observation and practicality together. For gross ignorance, most married men and women talk about the experience as practical only while neglecting observation in their marriage. Meanwhile, it is impossible to hone successful marriage without thorough application of both practicals and observation. Note! To practice anything you must first observe it.
THE ANCHOR OF EXPERIENCE:
- Practical
- Observation
See brief notes: PRACTICAL
Practice has a direct concern with doing or using something rather than
theory. It is the working of ideas, methods, or plans that are likely to
succeed in real circumstances. It relates to actual situations, experiences, or
actions rather than imagination.
OBSERVATION
Observation is an act of monitoring something or someone close. It is a
statement based on something seen, heard, or noticed action. It is the act
of watching something attentively and noticing or perceiving something
strongly.
HUMAN RELATION
Human relation refers to constructive ability to interact healthily with other people and build a sound relationship with them. It is a tool to redesign behavioral patterns, process creative systems, and communicate channels that help in improving marriages. It is an integral part of marriage that cannot be waved with a cheap backhand. It is a strong instrument that facilitates marriage; particularly, it enables couples to build highly successful homes. If you aspire to put your messed-up marriage in order, it is important to make a frantic effort to understand what makes the temperament and personality traits of your spouse. Initiate peculiar means of blending your temperament and personality traits into a unique behavioral pattern that will harmonize your marriage into formidable and indivisible oneness. To process temperaments and personality traits require policies compromised by concerned couples to accommodate each other’s weaknesses.